Why do we always try and avoid pain?
Here’s the thing though…
Try a new motto!
When I was a child, I always went out into the kitchen to eat something sweet or filling when my dad was yelling or I wasn’t feeling too good. That didn’t go so well with my figure, so when I was a teenager and in my twenties I substituted food with boys. I loved getting the attention and flirting always obsessing over whether or not a boy liked me. When I got married and had kids I instead numbed myself with overworking, over-socialising and obsessing over being the perfect wife and mother. It was SO exhausting and nearly got me down on my knees – my head was so overworked. I did all of that because I had not learned how to deal with life’s uncomfortable ups and downs, I always tried to avoid the pain by substituting it with something that would either soothe or numb me.
Liking boys, enjoying food and having a healthy work ambitions is perfectly fine, BUT when the motivation behind it, is tailored to avoid your feelings, then you are sorely missing the point, and in all essence prolonging or enhancing the pain.
It isn’t easy to change old ingrained patterns so you owe it to yourself to be gentle and befriend whatever is going on in your life right now, instead of fighting it, because this will just cloud your judgment, making your journey longer and harder.
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